How I Stand With Ruth - A Shavuot Sermon
I heard the term “fake Jew” for the
first time at a small Shabbos dinner gathering many years ago. It was actually a celebratory pot-luck for a
friend that had just had her Beit Din and had successfully converted to
Judaism. She had an Israeli boyfriend and
had planned to move to Israel with him, but her conversion had been a personal
matter that predated this relationship.
One of the invitees in a quite varied
group was an older lady, a born Jew of Sephardic heritage. She had at one point after the discussion of
making Aliya asked my friend about her own parentage. When my friend responded and then commented
that she has just converted, the guest nodded and quipped, “Oh, so you are one
of those fake Jews.”
This wasn’t the last time that I have
heard this term or some crass variation used.
Sometimes those commenting simply are repeating something that they have
unfortunately learned and on which they have never been challenged, others have
driven the words into others’ flesh with the intent to draw blood. Some have no idea the pain and humiliation
this epithet brings, others are fully aware and regardless hurl the insult.
Certainly when I first heard this term I
did not realize that I would be spending years of my life in communities where
such a term and its variations were not only commonplace, but the deeply held
and publicly stated belief of the majority of Synagogue members.
Although our tradition indeed shows a
great ambivalence towards conversion, ranging from Rabbi Eliezar ben Pedat in
Tractate Pesachim who states: “The
only reason G-d exiled the Jews among the nations was so that converts could be
added” to the contrasting statement in Tractate Yevamot where it is written:
“Converts are hard for Israel like a nasty sore,” the fact remains that halakhah explicitly allows conversion and in
our weekly Amidah we praise the “righteous converts” right along the Tzaddikim
and the Elders of our communities. Our
tradition is filled with converts that have been significant contributors to the
Jewish People and Religion. One could
possibly laugh at the picture of Onkulus, the great and influential translator
in Torah into Aramaic, being told by his contemporaries that he should be
considered a “fake” Jew.
Yet the conclusion is today inescapable
that we have developed a Conversion Wahnsinn – a sort of insanity around
that concept of conversion that is disproportionate to the halakhah as well as various
praises and critiques of converts in Jewish history.
Perhaps this can be most clearly seen in
the events of past years with the Chief Rabbinate in Israel. Two incredibly disturbing types of events
have occurred that should shock anyone with any knowledge of Jewish Law. The first consists of the retroactive
annulment of conversions performed by National Religious rabbis in Israel based
on the argument that the converts (sometimes of patrilineal Jews some times of
children of Jewish mother’s that could not prove their status due to the
reality of the Soviet Union) that had converted often for marriage sake no
longer observed the mitzvoth to the satisfaction of the Chief Rabbinate after a
divorce and therefore the conversions were invalid. The second involves rejection of conversions
of Orthodox Beitei Din outside of Israel that have not been specifically
sanctioned by the Chief Rabbinate of Israel— there are so many problems with
this alone it is worthy of another post.
Of course those of us outside of orthodoxy already understand this
reality and have no expectations that our conversions will be accepted by “religious
authorities” in Israel (also something worthy of another post) but that
Orthodox Beitei Din also suffer this, although certainly worth a bit of Schadenfreude,
should also be quite a shock.
The idea that there might be “problems”
with conversion is not a new idea. The
fact that some might undertake the conversion process with ulterior motives is
not a new concern. Rambam specifically
addresses this in the Mishne Torah where he writes (Book 5, Issurei Biah
Chapter 13, Halakhah 7):
“A convert who was not checked after or was
not informed of the mitzvot and their associated punishments yet he circumcised
and immersed in front of three ordinary people. He is still considered a
convert. Even if it is subsequently clarified that he converted out of ulterior
motives since he was circumcised and immersed he is no longer considered a
gentile, however we still suspect him until his righteousness is proven. Even
if he went back and worshipped idols he is considered as a rebellious Jew who
performs idolatry whose marriage is considered a marriage.”
This is an unambiguous
halakhah, completely ignored by the chief rabbinate, that wisely acknowledges
the potential of a nasty slippery slope.
In essence, without this halakhah successful converts (i.e. milah when
appropriate, tevillah, beit din) would become subject to the whims of the
interpretation of practice by a group in power exactly as is now happening. Rambam even goes as far as to say that when a
converted Jew becomes an active apostate the apostasy must be looked at in
terms of Jewish law for one with the status of “Jew.” Quite simply and according to this critical halakhah, a Jew is a Jew is a Jew is a Jew and no matter how much we might not like that we must deal with the Jew a s opposed to retroactively annulling the status for the sake of expediency or that they do not conform to our definitions of a "good Jew," whatever that really means.
So how did
we get to this point?
As we read
the book of Ruth this Shavuot we enjoy the timeless beauty of Ruth’s words of
conversion (1:14): “Stop urging me to abandon you // For wherever you go, I
will go // Wherever you live, I will live // Your people will become my people
// and your G-d will become my G-d.”
The meaning
of these words are no secret and I am offering nothing new by pointing out that
conversion must somehow include both the religious and the peoplehood aspects
of Judaism. Put negatively, without both
elements Judaism is not Judaism.
All of
which leads us to the insanity of today.
I cannot
directly speak to the underlying politics of the Chief Rabbinate in Israel,
only assume that the increasing fundamentalization of Haredi politics and
religious views/belief/practice leads to the same extreme black and white
extremism as all types of fundamentalism:
“You believe/behave as we do or you are wrong.” Although this directly contradicts the very
fundament of Rabbinical Judaism, namely the dialogic process explicit in
Talmud, through this mindset the easiest victims are those without a “from
birth” proof of membership in the tribe.
“We can’t do so much about the Reform born Jews whose practice we so
hate, so let us victimize those not born as Jews that do not follow our
incredibly narrow interpretation of the Law.”
This I can
do nothing more about than write and preach and point to the dangers of fundamentalism,
but even more disturbing to me are the words of the non-Haredi in our midst that
act with the same intolerance—those that uncritically utter the words “fake Jew”
or even worse treat the converts in our midst as second class citizens at best. Make no mistake, this is a manifestation of “bullying” in our Synagogues and the emotional, spiritual and
psychological effects are no less damning to the victims of this bullying than
the children that suffer bullying at schools or the adults that suffer mobbing
in their workplaces. Converts have
become the focus of our own insecurities and we are making it harder and harder
for Ruth to make her poetic statement of conversion. Today we meet “Your people shall be my people
and your G-d shall be my G-d” with “but you, Ruth, will never really be
accepted. You are not really Jewish.”
Even our
language has changed. We utter phrases
such as “half-Jew” or “quarter-Jew” as if these have some historical legal
importance in determining Jewishness, and somehow with the sickest of ironies
forget that we have begun defining ourselves through the racial laws of the 3rd
Reich as opposed to the words of our Tradition.
On the other side, we learn the lesson of Stalin that Judaism is a stamp
of nationality on a passport without any religious content—we relegate Ruth to
the status of an immigrant and forget she also accepted a specific way of
interacting with the spiritual universe – with “G-d.” When we forget this of course conversion
cannot be valid, as how could someone have a nationality to which they were not
born stamped in their passport?
Standing
with Ruth means that we remember Judaism exists only when it remains in
dialogue with itself in both its religious and peoplehood aspects. Standing with Ruth means calling the bigotry
of the Chief Rabbinate exactly what it is—a rejection of Jewish Law in order to
further a hegemony that stands outside of normative Jewish Law. Standing with Ruth means that we reject
defining ourselves as Hitler and Stalin would have us do. Standing with Ruth means that a convert is
fully Jewish, period, and we embrace Ruth in the same loving arms with which we
wish to be welcomed when we enter our communities as Jews.
Chag
Shavuot Semeyach.
Comments
I cannot tell you how wonderful it is to hear these words. I came to your blog because I'm hoping to ease back into the Jewish community at Sinai in Leeds. It has been a torturous time. My late husband and I converted with Rabbi Walter Rothschild, using the embryonic course which I believe has now become the official conversion course of the RSGB. After his death I moved to Leeds and wasn't sure where I belonged. My heart was saying Orthodoxy but there were things I couldn't (and still can't) reconcile. My head and quite a few other peoples mouths were saying other things - though we did have a lot of support as well. It came to my children's options for secondary school and I wanted them to go to King David in Manchester, then realised this wouldn't be possible. I mentioned to someone in the community who had told me their mother 'converted Reform' (she didn't, she just moved to a Reform shul) that they might have a similar issue. The anger that ensued drove me from the city and alienated me from almost everyone I knew there. I say this not as lashon hara, but to support what you've said above. I wish that it wasn't such a polarising, hurtful, contentious and damaging issue and could still be as it was when Ruth became the first convert (after Avraham Avinu) I look forward very much to meeting you and wish you bracha v'hatlacha and mazel tov on your new post. Shabbat Shalom.